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On consent (again).
To feel free to fully find ourselves, we all need to be respected as autonomous individuals.
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On consent.
To make a better world, we’ll need to get over our potential embarrassment and make sure that somebody’s “yes” means what we think it does.
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On gerrymandering (a prequel).
The U.S. Senate was designed to subvert democracy and allow a political minority to perpetrate great evil. The system is still working.
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On genetic inheritance and sexual assault.
Violence flourishes whenever people want control without putting in the work. But humans can stand against injustice.
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On clarity, Matthew Zapruder’s “Why Poetry,” and reading Bruce Weigl.
We should strive for clarity, out of love for those willing to listen.
abuse, Billy Collins, blaming victims, Blast Furnace, Bloomington, Bruce Weigl, childhood, clarity, drug abuse, drug use, honesty, honesty in writing, Introduction to Poetry, jail, mass incarceration, Matthew Zapruder, memory, metaphor, Monroe County Jail, New Leaf New Life, poems, poetry, prison, psychiatry, psychology, PTSD, rape, recovery dorm, rehab, rehabilitation, repressed memories, say it clearly and you make it beautiful, sexual abuse, Spotlight, symbolism, The Impossible, Tom McCarthy, trauma, Why Poetry, writing
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On horror, healing, and Joanna Connors’s ‘I Will Find You.’
In a courageous effort to heal, an investigative reporter uncovers the long history of violence behind her own trauma.
American Salvage, Bonnie Jo Campbell, forgiveness, healing, hurt people hurt people, I Will Find You, inequality starts before birth, investigative journalism, Joanna Connors, lost innocence, meth, methamphetamine, nature versus nurture, preemptive punishment, PTSD, racial disparities in the criminal justice system, rape, rape prosecution, sexual assault, The Trespasser, vengeance
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On self-immolation.
I try to be upfront with people — especially young students I volunteer with — about my own depression.
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On Jon Krakauer’s Missoula
I am obviously thrilled that Jon Krakauer’s Missoula has been getting so much press. There are still a wide variety of pernicious misperceptions out there, and Krakauer does an excellent job of addressing them in a very accessible format. I hope lots of people read his book, and, like Nicholas Kristof, encourage their friends and…
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On violence against women (part three): rape, evolution, and the dangers of partial truths.
This is third in a series. Read Part 1 and Part 2. Were you sired by a jerk? Don’t worry! You can still be good! I’m mostly familiar with two theories addressing the question, “Why do men rape?” One comes from feminism, like the thesis put forward in Brownmiller’s Against Our Will: violence against women…
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On violence against women.
This is the first in a series. Read the second one here. Quick caveat: this essay will be unpleasant. Given the title, you can probably guess the nature of the impending unpleasantness. So, if you think that’s a topic you shouldn’t be reading about right now, then you should skip this. But it’s something I…
Against Our Will, ancient sexual assault trials, Bible, Christianity, consensual kissing does not imply consent to further physical affection, cultural relativism, dueling to let God dictate which party to a trial is more honest, ellusive justice, erasure, feminism, Homer, Kampan versus Valmiki Ramayanas, making fiction less horrible than reality so that readers aren’t too upset, Martin Van Creveld, Oliver Fallon, rape, removing charms before a duel, sexual assault, sexual assault trials, sexual violence as social control, silenced text, silenced voices, Susan Brownmiller, The Death of Ravana, the oppression of fear, underlying misogyny of various religious traditions, Valmiki, was Supranakha punished for sexual empowerment, who writes history, women shackled to rotten husbands
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