love
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On learning about polyamory from Elephant & Piggie.
Despite the recent surge of art & literature about polyamory, the best depiction is still in a book for elementary schoolers …
Alex Dimitrov, American Poly, babysitting cooperative, Bill de Blasio, Bonnie Garmus, Brian Watson, capitalism, capitalist critique, Charlotte Cowles, childcare, Chirlane McCray, Choosing the Right Pond, Christopher Gleason, consensual nonmonogamy, consumerism, cooperation, cooperative childcare, Cunning Minx, Elephant & Piggie, Elephant and Piggie, Elizabeth Doerr, free love, Geraldo Rivera, group marriage, human sexuality, I’ll Be Lovin’ You, Jennifer Wilson, joy, Kamauu, Lessons in Chemistry, love, Maitland Ward, Mango, Miranda Lambert, Mo Willems, multiple marriage, My New Friend Is So Fun, nontraditional marriage, Notes for My Funeral, Olivia Goldhill, open marriage, open relationship, parenting, partible paternity, poly, poly music, poly songs, polyamorists, polyamorous, polyamorous music, polyamorous parenting, Polyamorous Sex as Political Weapon, polyamorous songs, polyamory, polygamy, raising children, Rated X, relationships, Robert Frank, romance, Ryam Nearing, Sarah Stein Lubrano, sex-positive, social justice, Storming then Performing, wealth inequality, work spouse, work wife
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On love and history.
Of all my children’s toys, I imagine that the rainbow unicorn appears most unlovable. Its fur is tattered, some patches nearly bare and others clumped or crusty with goo. Its horn is a broken nub flaking bits of plastic. The eyes are scratched. The wings are pocked. The once-bright colors have faded. This unicorn is…
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On ‘Babel,’ ‘Everything Everywhere All at Once,’ and violence.
Violence begets violence; to create a better world, we must act as though it could possibly exist.
Abel's sacrifice, Abraham, An Arcane History, authority figure, Babel, Bible, binding of Isaac, blessing, Cain and Abel, Cain's sacrifice, capitalism, curse, disease resistance, disruption, diversity of languages, Edenic language, electrical shock, Everything Everywhere All at Once, fantasy, fear, film critique, film review, folktales, Genesis 22, Genesis 4, germs, great floods, gun violence, guns, Guns Germs and Steel, Ham, hierarchy, hubris, human migration, immunology, inequality, language, leap of faith, love, Michael Bazzett, Milgram Experiment, Milgram shock experiment, Milgram test, multiverse, myths, Noah, Noah's curse, obedience, Old Testament, origin of Bible stories, origin of inequality, origin of languages, parallel worlds, quantum mechanics, R. F. Kuang, Rebecca Kuang, religion, slavery, spoken word, Stanley Milgram, Steel, The Matrix, The Necessity of Violence, The Popul Vuh, Tower of Babel, Translation, why did humans build the Tower of Babel, Yahweh
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On unrequited love.
All those years of unrequited love prepared me for a newborn.
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On self-importance.
We aren’t the stars of other people’s stories — and that’s okay.
addiction, Aimee Nezhukumatathil, anxiety, Anxiety Is the Dizziness of Freedom, Blake Crouch, career, caretakers, caretaking, children or career, clone battle, clones, dark matter, decoherence, drug, drug addiction, drugs, Exhalation, family, family or career, family versus career, Hugh Everett, infinity, jail, love, macaques, many worlds, many worlds theory, many-worlds interpretation, Nezhukumathil, opiates, postponing children for career, prioritizing caretaking, prioritizing family, Pulp Fiction, quantum decoherence, quantum measurement, quantum mechanics, Quentin Tarantino, rehab, sci-fi, sci-fi thriller, science fiction, taking care of family, Ted Chiang, thrill, World of Wonders
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On autism and parenting.
My kids are lucky to have such dissimilar parents. Which is happier than thinking I’m the defective parent.
ASD, autism parenting, autism spectrum, autistic parent, building relationships, child psychology, childhood, childhood development, data mining, data-driven dating, dating apps, dating sites, developmental psychology, family, father, fatherhood, growing together, human development, love, mate choice, parenting, parenting on the spectrum, parenting with autism, personal growth, psychology studies, raising a family, raising children, raising kids, relationships, romance
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On Darwin and free love.
I suddenly saw a link between Erasmus Darwin’s belief in free love and Charles Darwin’s “Origin of the Species”! The only problem? The former was just slander.
affairs, Bargh, behavioral priming, behavioral psychology, brain soup, Charles Darwin, compulsary research studies, Darwin and free love, Darwin belief in free love, Darwin feminism, Darwin feminist, Darwin free love, Emmy Brockman, Erasmus Darwin, Erasmus Darwin evolution, Erasmus Darwin free love, everything from shells, evolution, evolution by natural selection, extramarital daliance with consent, extramarital daliances, Fara, free love, French Revolution, how many neurons in the human brain, I am a scientist, love, love life, many love, many loves, natural selection, neuron counts, Origin of the Species, Patricia Fara, plant neurobiology, plant poetry, Plants Neither Possess nor Require Consciousness, polyamorist, polyamory, priming, psychological priming, psychology research, publication bias, reproducibility crisis, risque plant poetry, romance, Science Is for Me, scientific bias, scientific misconceptions, scientific publishing, slander, supposedly pornographic poetry, survival of the fittest, Suzana Herculano-Houzel, teleological fallacy, teleological misconception, The Human Advantage, The Loves of Plants, theory of evolution, walking speed, was Darwin a polyamorist, was Erasmus Darwin a polyamorist
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On reading poems from Donika Kelly’s ‘Bestiary’ in jail.
Will poems about lovelorn bowerbirds help men in jail for domestic violence? At least the words are beautiful.
abuse, abusive relationships, affirmative consent, AI, art, assault, Bestiary, Bower, bowerbird, Bruce Weigl, child abuse, Child Beater, consent, CPS, creation, DCS, desire, domestic, domestic violence, Donika Kelly, drinking, Heartbreak, incarceration, jail poetry, Kavanaugh, kindness, love, love poems, mass incarceration, mouse, objectification, poems, poetry, pornography, pre-emptive excuses, relationships, respect, romance, sex education, sexual assault, sexuality, teaching in jail, teaching poetry in jail, That Cat, The Impossible, trauma, violence, What Gay Porn Has Done for Me, writing, writing poetry
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On love and physics.
Even when love doesn’t change the world, it changes us.
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